Twenty Nuggets For Transitional Seasons.

Transitions are normal occurences in life. Everybody goes through them even if they arent aware of it.

The difference is the intensity and the circumstances you find yourself in. Not all transitions are because of bad happenings. Some actually are because you finally manifested your dreams, God answered your prayers, you leveled-up, your children left home to pursue the beginning of adulthood, you are a newlywed, emigrated to another country, changed careers etc

Then there are the horrible ones, death, illness, loss, bankruptcy, disfunction, war, etc.

One common denominator is grief. Oh there can be joy and grief at the same time because of many factors.

Transitions can be bittersweet, some can be downright horrible and feeling like you will never come out the other side. No light seems apparent at the end of the tunnel.

In the midst of all this pay attention.

1. Pay attention to your thoughts. Pay attention to your words…your thoughts and words have power.
2. Pay attention to your dreams, vision and goals. Keep them in mind. Keep dreaming, dreams are for free. Dull out the noise and focus.
3. Pay attention to your energy. Protect it. You will need all of you to be able to get through.
4. Pay attention to people and how they handle you in such seasons. Transitional seasons are sifting seasons. They present the rare gift of knowing who is who…ie who is a real one and who isnt. This is because people have a way of relating to people they think they will never need.
5. Isolation is necessary to keep the noise out to enable you have clarity but beware of overdoing it. We are relational beings.
6. Ask for help, pray for help and pay for help
7. Never give in to shame…shame is a prison. You are not the first person to have hit rock bottom. You are not the first person struggling to adjust to a new season of blessing. The examples of those who survived and thrived are too numerous to count.
8. It is a pause not a fullstop. Believe it with all of you.
9. Pay attention to the lessons. They are priceless. Many people have churned out books and numerous projects from valley and transitional seasons.
10. Journal like your life depends on it.
11. Pray, cry, laugh, dance, hope. Hold on to hope. Take walks, rest, be in nature…its restorative.
12. Offer people grace. Not everyone has the capacity needed to handle you well during this season.
13. When you ask for help and you get a no, note that though it might not feel like it, NO is redirection not rejection.
14. Transitional seasons are lonely seasons. You are navigating the unfamiliar, you need new muscle which you are now building….I mean mental and emotional capacity. You are experiencing life in a way that you might not have the words to express it yet. You might not have the capacity to embrace people the way you used to. You will be misunderstood because of it. Make peace with it.
15. Transitional seasons are shedding seasons. To survive and eventually thrive you will need to shed the old in order to have the capacity to embrace the new. Shed, old mindsets, habits, behaviours, routines, people. Every weight must go.
16. You will be the most vulnerable in this season. Make space for your vulnerability. No matter how strong you are you will need someone to hold space for you. Singles and those in lonely unions beware you do not fall in any reckless hands during this season, bearing in mind when you are hungry every food looks delicious.
17. Anchor yourself in hope. I cant emphasise this enough.
18. Find a seasoned counselor, coach, mentor, therapist to guide you.
19. Pay attention to the positives and celebrate them.
20. It might not make any sense now, but it will all make sense with time.

All things are working together for your good.

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