Just sending warm thoughts to our sisters in abusive marriages and relationships. I know leaving an abusive union is really difficult for most women because of financial difficulties. So here’s my suggestion.
Have a exit plan
1. If you realize he’s abusive please decide not to have another child. Please go to the health center and get help to decide birth control methods that work for you.
2. Go back to school/add value to yourself if you are in this bracket. Focus your energy on building your career and personal development. (I know this option might not work for some abuse victims)
3. Save some money. No matter what don’t touch that money.
4. Start figuring out accommodation options, school for your child etc.
5. Reach out to a lawyer for guidance.
6. If your family is super supportive let them in on the plan otherwise keep them out of it.
7. Find a trusted friend to help you. You will need help.
8. Pack an emergency bag for yourself and your children if you have any. Make copies of the house keys. Keep all your valuables, important certificates, passports, important documents and keep them safe outside of the house.
9. Never ever threaten to leave him. Some women lost their lives through that.
10. When the coast is clear leave quietly. Call whoever you confided in to be your ally and your lawyer. Never disclose your location. Depending on the situation, your children might be out of school for a few days as you adjust to your new life.
11. If you believe in in prayer, pray for wisdom and courage.
I know you’ve been beaten down either physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally and/or financially a lot. This robs you of your courage and sense of self. I have great news for you….. I’ve seen so many women make a strong come back after abuse that I believe that no matter what you’ve been through, you can heal from it and go on to have an amazing life. You are gorgeous, simply priceless and amazing! Always speak positively to yourself and watch your life change. There’s power in words❤️🙏🏾.
#LeaveToLive
©️Emefa Gadze 15th April 2019
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