The wedding season has began and many people are preparing to get married before the end of the year well into February the next year.
If your partner is the type who is not able to set boundaries with parents and family members now, please think twice before you commit.
No amount of love, is able to prevent the calamity that arises from lack of boundaries from family in marriage. And if you are not able to stand the heat, you might end up divorced and probably with hurting children in the mix afterwards.
This matter that is seldom spoken about is very, very major in marriage and causes a lot of heartache. Marriage is already not easy even for the best marriages. Then you add to the mix a spouse who does not understand where to draw the line when it comes to his or her family, is recipe for disaster.
The most painful thing to experience as a spouse in such situations is to see the person you love, respect and hold in high esteem become like a helpless child in the face of their family, sometimes resentful about the position they in but convinced they are powerless about finding a solution. Leaving you in a place of resentment and constant chaos… It’s not a great place to be.
No matter how polished, rich educated, fine etc they are, it will never compensate for the pain and chaos that spouse brings because of the lack of sense of boundaries when it comes to their family or their refusal to do anything about it.
Sometimes, I wonder why we don’t often hear sermons about this silent epidemic in marriages especially in our setting, considering how we seem to hate divorce more than God himself and stigmatize people especially women who go through with it.
If we abhor divorce then we must start tackling other root causes that we refuse to talk about.
Dear person about to marry, open your eyes, don’t ignore redflags, you have the power of choice, use it wisely.
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