If you are a father, I will like to remind you that you owe this earth a duty to father your children in a way that they do not end up with Daddy hurts. What are daddy hurts? Daddy hurts are invincible wounds that a person carries as a result of the ignorance, neglect, abuse, carelessness and absence of their father in their lives. These individuals go through life feeling inadequate because of the lack of validation from a dad. It affects their self-esteem, their ability to break out and excel, they struggle to maintain thriving relationships and they go through life most often feeling less than irrespective of how much success they attain in life. As a father your duty well done, heals society and advances nations. Your job is not an easy one at all, it is critical to building a civil, progressive and productive society.
When a man is been loved and validated by his father, he has a healthy sense of self and is well-balanced internally, knows his purpose on earth and is focused and happy in what he believes he is called to, he is not threatened by the success of his wife or any other woman around him. He goes out into the world ready to conquer and help anyone, male or female who is willing to take the world by storm without feeling intimidated.
When a woman is been well loved and validated by her father, she carries herself with dignity, she is confident in herself and her abilities, her relationships are rich and she is careful to choose the company she keeps because she knows her worth. Research has confirmed over and over again that many women at a certain level at the top have been found to be daddy’s girls. She thrives where ever she goes because she does not carry emotional and psychological baggage. Because of that she is more able to conquer the world.
Here is an example of how to affirm and validate your children; an excerpt of what TD Jakes publicly said to her daughter Sarah Jakes Roberts
”I am proud of you
I am proud of what you are doing
I am proud of who you are on the earth
I am proud of who you are in the kingdom
I am proud to say you are my daughter
I am proud to honour you and to recognise you and to see the bud blossom and bringing forth food not just to you but to your children and children’s chidren.
And the gift that I give you today is a gift that so many people dont get.
I cannot control what you will face in life, I dont know what the future will bring for you. but you will not be one of those girls growing up in the world wondering what her father thought about her.
I think you are amazing, I think you are spectacular, I think you are uniquely special and I love you to life”
When her father had finished telling her this, she had no words, just a big wide grin on her face and tears in her eyes.
Fathers, you are precious, you are critical to solving a lot of ills on this planet that are caused most often by broken people. People who did not get the right conditioning and love in their early years who now have become a liability on this earth.
Kudos to the exceptional fathers who are hands on with their children and even better extending a hand to father other children who are not theirs biologically.
Love your children well. If you do not know how, please learn how to to do it. There are many examples of men who did not have great fathers themselves who have become exceptional at fatherhood.
One clue to being a great dad, is treating your child’s mother with respect and honour.
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