If you are a dad, who is dragging their feet to pay your dues this back to school season, as your children need many new things from school fees to uniforms, books, transportation, homework help, emotional support, lunch and snack fees, hostel fees, groceries etc remember it is your child who feels the pain the most, not your ex when you abandon your duties as a father.
Please get a grip on yourself and focus on that child. Children never forget. We’ve all heard many childhood stories from adults about how their parents treated them when they were most capable. These negative stories must be disrupted for more positive ones.
For those who complain that the exes are using the children to extort money from them, sometimes I wish more single mums will find the courage to leave their children with their fathers to take care of them 24/7 so they know what the deal truly is. That as much as some of them might be contributing financially, this thing of being primary custodial parent, goes beyond money (that most times is not even enough or is not even coming from the dad at all). It means bringing all of you to the table and it does not help when the ex is doing the most to just cause trouble. In the end sadly, it’s the children who suffer.
No matter how much you hate your ex wife or girlfriend, being an adult requires that, you step out of your feelings and look at things objectively. If you are really able to do that, you will see how much she is doing her best to bring up both your children and sometimes even her step-children, children you brought into the relationship but she embraced so much that now that the relationship is over, she is still caring for them.
Your ex might not be perfect, but learn to show appreciation for what they do for the overall well-being of the children.
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